I have been trying to change some of my bad habits, because I know I can do better than I am currently doing, but I’m not having much success changing myself. I seem very stuck in my old ways. Can you give me some advice on changing myself?
Many people struggle with changing themselves, and it’s easy to understand why. We, as human beings, are often change resistant. Many of our bad habits are deeply planted, subconscious programs that were learned in childhhod and were reinforced in our upbringing. Some were even passed down to us through genetics. These programs can take time to rewrite.
The fact that you are aware of the bad habits and have a desire to change them is the first important step. You have moved from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence. You may still behave badly, but now, you are keely aware of it. This first step, though crucial to the process of change, can be discouraging.
The next step in the process of changing yourself will be forcing yourself to behave differently (moving to conscious competence). If you commit to a new behavior and keep practicing it, eventually it will become your new subconscious habit (unconscious competence).
Here are a few unique ideas that may help you in that process:
Kimberly Giles is the founder and president of www.ldslifecoaching.com and www.claritypointcoaching.com. She is a sought after life coach and popular speaker who specializes in self esteem and changing your life.
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Kimberly Giles is the president and founder of Claritypoint Life Coaching and 12 SHAPES INC. She is an author and professional speaker. She was named one of the top 20 advice gurus in the country by Good Morning America in 2010. She appears regularly on local and national TV and Radio.