Listening isn’t just about exchanging information with another person. When you take the time to ask questions and truly listen to another person’s thoughts, feelings, ideas, opinions, fears and concerns (and you honor and respect their right to think the way they do), you validate their worth as a person. You show them you value who they are.
This is one of the greatest gifts you can give another human being, because the deepest fear in all of us is that we aren’t of value or aren’t good enough to be loved.
When you validate a person by listening to them, you build a relationship of trust and they feel safe with you. When this happens, their walls and defenses come down, and they become much more cooperative.
Asking questions and listening is also the best way to instill confidence in a child. When you take the time to listen to a child’s ideas, opinions and feelings, you are showing him he is important. A child who feels important will go much farther in life.
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Kimberly Giles is the president and founder of Claritypoint Life Coaching and 12 SHAPES INC. She is an author and professional speaker. She was named one of the top 20 advice gurus in the country by Good Morning America in 2010. She appears regularly on local and national TV and Radio.